Bedroom

A shared bedroom is common for many couples these days. In earlier times, though, noble couples quite often slept and lived apart. But even if the spatial distance was sometimes great – being part of a noble family meant to stick together, to take care of relatives and to keep up the good name.

1780 – 1830

Great families and many bedrooms

To live with distinction

Country houses were spacious and crowded at the same time because their walls housed several generations simultaneously. All family members were part of the noble “house” which had to be maintained not in the least in the bedroom. What that means? Anne Sophie Overkamp explains.

1880 – 1930

Tomorrow’s family

Offspring in the country house

Families only survive if they procreate. Around 1900, noble parents, however, had to think hard what ought to become of their sons and daughters. They feared for their preeminence in state and society, and they experienced economic setbacks. Their traditional income from agriculture oftentimes no longer sufficed to support either the family or the country house: Quite a few family members had to search for a second income; So, nobles started to focus on a good education for their children. In early life, nurses and teachers took care of the offspring, later on, they attended boarding schools for secondary education. In  this way, nobles learned the distinctions of class and money early on.

Ludwig Freiherr von dem Bongart also comes from a long line of nobility. See for yourself.

1945 – 1990

Yesterday’s family

Safeguarding old age

After 1945, more and more nobles worked in a profession that had little to do with the country house’s estate. They formed extensive networks of kinship and  professional associations beyond the realm of the country house. Widely ramified networks formed an influential lobby that acted for economic and political interests. People remained aware of their noble family background and took care of the older generation, for example by granting them a life estate or a pension. These agreements were put down in formal contracts, as in the case of  the Kempis family in 1951. In that year, Franz Joseph von Kempis and his family moved to Haus Kendenich in the Rhineland and took over the estate from his widowed mother Maria Theresia von Kempis. The two of them sorted out the exact conditions to the last degree, not least to ensure Frau von Kempis’ financial protection. But the financial obligation was mutual: From time to time, Frau von Kempis supported her son. 

In the contract between Franz Joseph von Kempis and his mother Maria Theresia von Kempis in 1951, both sides record in detail the kind of benefits Frau von Kempis would receive in the future. See for yourself which natural produce she could expect.

In the contract between Franz Joseph von Kempis and his mother Maria Theresia von Kempis in 1951, both sides record in detail the kind of benefits Frau von Kempis would receive in the future. See for yourself which natural produce she could expect.

In the contract between Franz Joseph von Kempis and his mother Maria Theresia von Kempis in 1951, both sides record in detail the kind of benefits Frau von Kempis would receive in the future. See for yourself which natural produce she could expect.

Perspectives

Proprietress

1800

Housekeeper

1890

House owner

1970

Who will inherit the estate?

Her ladyship Adelgunde von Uselstein

I don’t know whether I’m coming or going. Yesterday, my beloved husband died and I am pregnant with our third child. Hopefully this time it is going to be a boy who can inherit the estate. In that event, all of us can stay. Otherwise, the children and I can only lay claim on a couple of rooms. Rather than living under such circumstances, I will move to the city and rent a house.

These little rascals!

Gertrude Löffelholz, Housekeeper

The children keep annoying the governess all day. They are totally out of control since his lordship had to give away their beloved St Bernard dog. But what else should her ladyship have requested after the dog bit the French nanny? Poor thing is in the hospital right now.

Our son is returning!

Ursula von Klagenfeld, House owner

Another year or two and my beloved son will take over the administration of the estate. I am glad that my husband and I will no longer have to take care of it. Times have changed, there’s nothing we can do about it. Our son is a student of agrarian sciences and wants to change quite a few things here. His ideas sound nuts to me! But we will probably have to support him financially anyway – hopefully, the house repairs will not eat up all of our savings before that.

Conclusion

Noblesse oblige

For a long time, country houses accommodated noble families, who in turn represented an extended family and tried to maintain their distinction and reputation. Quite often, several generations lived under one roof. Distant relatives were also part of the noble house. Thanks to this, nobles formed extended networks whose members supported each other both in society and politics.

Would you like to be part of an extended noble family? So haben die Besucher:innen abgestimmt:

Yes, I could only profit from such connections in life.

No, I would lose my independence and suffer from my family’s control over me.

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